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It may feel like a lot of things are up in the air right now: the economy, the rise of COVID-19 cases, plans for returning to work, changes to the upcoming semester and much more. Persistent uncertainty and rapid changes can leave us feeling stressed, anxious, frustrated and exhausted.

Here are a few things to practice that can help you and your student cope.Ìý

Validate feelings and experiences

Whatever you or your student is feeling right now is normal, and it’s okay to be stressed, anxious, upset or all of the above. When there is no concrete end date in sight, we may struggle more than if we knew when things would be stopping soon. The desire for closure is a valid human need, and like our students, many of us wish we could forecast what life will look like in the coming months and the year ahead. It’s important for our students to know that we share their feelings, and it’s okay to not know what is to come. Let your student know that no matter what happens, you’ll get through this together.

Put things into perspective

As a parent or family member, you can help your student work through feelings around uncertainty by helping them put things into perspective and creating a plan. Consider asking questions like:

• What are some things you are looking forward to this semester?

• Are there things you’re worried might happen?

• Are the things you’re worried about something we can plan for?

As your student identifies and works through these questions, you can help them talk through ideas and strategies. For instance, you may help them come up with a list of campus resources to navigate academic challenges or support their mental health throughout the semester. If your student is worried about getting sick, consider walking them through how to use their insurance, make an appointment or where to get care. As you work together to come up with solutions and identify coping skills, they may realize that even if challenges arise, they’ll still come out just fine.

Be there

Have an open and honest conversation about how your student is doing. Revisit this conversation throughout the semester. Ask questions and listen non-judgmentally as your student talks through their emotions and experiences. Let your student know that you’re here for them. If you’re not sure where to begin, consider asking your student questions like:

• What are you looking forward to this semester?

• What are you nervous about?

• How are you coping with feelings of nervousness or uncertainty?

• Would you feel comfortable sharing with me or someone else when you’re feeling stuck or struggling?

• What can I do to help you move forward and make the most of this semester?

You can also adapt these questions to check in with yourself, friends or other family members. Keeping a journal is another great way to process these types of questions and work through uncertainties.
If you’re ever concerned about your student’s well-being, CU Boulder provides resources and a holistic approach to student health and wellness. Check out our Virtual Campus Support Resources or Health and Wellness Services for more information.