5 ways to prepare for your student to come home this summer
Having your student home over the summer can be a source of joy and stress. If your student is planning to spend time at home this summer, here are some tips you can use to help them make a smooth transition.ÌýÌý
1. Set boundariesÌý
Setting clear expectations and boundaries with your student (ideally before they come home) can help everyone have a smoother transition.ÌýÌý
Take some time to talk with your student about the expectations you have while they’re home. Keep in mind that your student’s expectations may differ from your own. For instance, they may not know that you expect them to follow a curfew, help with chores or take on additional responsibilities. If you have differing perspectives, try to come to an agreement or compromise when possible. Talking through these types of expectations and working through differences can help you and your student avoid unwanted conflict.Ìý
It’s also important to maintain open communication with your student. Remember that they may not be in the habit of keeping others updated on their plans. Let your student know that you’d like to hear about what they have planned while they are home. For instance, you may ask them how long they plan to stay, how much time they plan to spend with friends or family and if they have any specific events or activities planned. You should also be open about your own plans and let your student know in advance of family gatherings, activities or other events you expect them to attend.Ìý
2. Prepare for tough conversationsÌý
This summer you may find yourself talking with your student about their grades, major, relationships, substance use, differences in points of view and other potentially difficult topics. If these types of topics come up, it’s best to be prepared in advance.Ìý
Check out these tips to learn how to make the most of tough conversations.Ìý
3. Get into a routineÌý
Transitioning home may be difficult for some students, especially if their responsibilities, routines and schedules have changed significantly since leaving campus. You can help set them up for success by encouraging them to implement daily routines.ÌýÌý
Here are some ideas you can share with them:Ìý
- Go to bed and wake up at the same time each dayÌý
- Plan out their days in advanceÌý
- Identify activities they can do each day (e.g., taking an evening walk, etc.)Ìý
- Schedule time with friends or familyÌý
- Make space for alone timeÌý
- Identify things they would like to do while they’re home and when they’re able to do themÌý
4. Find healthy ways to copeÌý
Spending time with family can be as stressful as it is enjoyable, especially if your student is home for an extended length of time. If you or your student are feeling stressed about your new arrangements, it’s important for both of you to find healthy ways to cope.ÌýÌý
Here are a few strategies you can both try:Ìý
- Have an open conversation with how you’re both doingÌý
- Seek support from family or friendsÌý
- Be open to compromisesÌý
- Get at least seven to nine hours of sleep each nightÌý
- Stay physically activeÌý
- Spend time with people you love and care about outside of your familyÌý
- Make time for hobbies and activities you enjoyÌý
- Accept that no family is perfect (you can still love someone even if you don’t like them all the time)Ìý
5. Connect with resourcesÌý
If your student is struggling over the summer, there are resources available to help. Be sure to check out all our Health and Wellness summer services. Ìý
Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS)
CAPS will be offering consultations, workshops and drop-in hours over the summer.
AcademicLiveCare
All students can access free counseling, psychiatry, nutrition and medical appointments online through AcademicLiveCare. Students can sign up with their CU IdentiKey to get started.
Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)
OVA provides free and confidential support, consultation, advocacy and short-term trauma counseling to all CU Boulder students and graduate students who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic, disturbing or life-disrupting event. They also offer support for those who are helping a friend, partner, family member or colleague through a traumatic experience.
WellTrack
WellTrack is a free app available to all CU Boulder students. It is designed to help students identify, understand and address issues like stress, anxiety, loneliness, finances, academics, relationships, well-being and more.